Couples Therapy for Polyamory & Ethical Non-Monogamy

Are you exploring polyamory, consensual non-monogamy, or ethical non-monogamy? Navigating these relationship styles can be deeply rewarding but also complex. I’m Anne Avonlee, LMFT, LAC, trained in Gottman Level 1 and 2 couples therapy, here to help you foster connections that honor all needs and break away from sacrificial patterns rooted in scarcity.

Together, we’ll create relationships based on mutual respect, authentic communication, and shared abundance — relationships designed for you and the modern world.

Traditional relationship models often promote sacrifice, secrecy, and unmet needs — fueling resentment and disconnection. My approach offers a new vision:

• Relationships where everyone’s needs matter
• Tools to navigate jealousy, boundaries, and consent with clarity
• Skills to deepen emotional intimacy through vulnerability and trust
• An emphasis on equity, autonomy, and ethical communication
• Support for navigating the unique challenges of polyamory and kink-affirming relationships

As a Level 1 & 2 Gottman-trained therapist, I use evidence-based methods proven to strengthen couples’ connection and reduce conflict. These include:

• Building effective communication skills
• Managing conflict constructively without blame or withdrawal
• Enhancing friendship and shared meaning in your relationship
• Creating rituals of connection tailored to your unique dynamic

Integrating Gottman principles with trauma-informed care creates a safe space to explore your relationship’s challenges and potentials.

• Couples exploring or practicing ethical non-monogamy or polyamory
• Individuals seeking support navigating kink or BDSM relationships with safety and respect
• Families redefining connection beyond traditional norms
• Partners wanting to escape scarcity-driven sacrifice in favor of abundant mutual care
• Those desiring clearer boundaries, consent culture, and authentic communication

• Collaborative sessions tailored to your goals and relationship style
• Exploration of patterns that no longer serve you
• Practical exercises to improve communication and emotional attunement
• Guidance on negotiating boundaries, agreements, and relational ethics
• A compassionate space honoring your whole selves — mind, body, heart, and spirit

My work invites you to imagine relationships free from sacrifice and scarcity — where love is abundant, needs are honored, and connection is vibrant. This journey is about co-creating partnerships that multiply joy rather than diminish it.

Let’s build the relationship you deserve — one rooted in respect, freedom, and deep connection.